BEHIND EVERY MAN ……….

BEHIND EVERY MAN ………..

Remember, as a wife, you are not only his closest friend but also his supporter, advisor, teacher and caretaker.
The adage “Behind every successful man there is a woman” is an old one and much used, and often not even given much credence nowadays. If we look around a little, we will, however, find that it speaks true even in this age when women are no longer homebound and have found
identities for themselves in the world. The wife does play a tremendous role in the life of her man.
When a woman marries, she becomes a partner in his fortunes and misfortunes. It follows from this, naturally, that it is much to her own advantage, if she helps her man get on in his life.
A wife is not just the mother of his children but his helpmate and confidante. A supportive woman is her husband’s strength and sounding board. If she manages to gain his trust, he will return from his work and unburden his thoughts, plans, problems and dreams into her sympathetic ear,
The support and encouragement that a wife gives her husband can help him rise to great heights. Most men are putty in the hands of their spouses, especially when they are newly married, and will often do anything their better halves desire.
A selfish, small-hearted woman can, on the other hand, alienate her husband from his family or even wreck his career.
MARRIAGE IN TROUBLED WATERS
Often a marriage heads into troubled waters when the wife tries to change her husband into the man of her dreams. This can cause a lot of friction and unhappiness as few men can tolerate this audacity on the part of their spouses.
Women enter marriage, hoping their husbands will change, says the wag, while men marry, hoping their wives do not change! Unfortunately, wives do change. The sweetness of their courting days turns into nagging and bickering — and the men refuse to conform to the image their wives have of the ideal husband.
The prudent wife does try to change her husband in certain wise ways.
HUSBAND’S FINANCES
Many wives do not have a clue about their husbands’ finances. They do not care where the money comes from as long as it does! This is not right at all. A wise wife should share not only all information of their financial status, investments, savings and such other matters but she should also plan her own spending according to this.
Of course, some men prefer to hide their money from their spouses lest the latter misuse it. It makes sense to do this if the wife is a thoughtless, foolish spendthrift. In other conditions, there should be a transparency about finances between the spouses. In the event of demise, for instance, the surviving partner should not be thrown into confusion due to ignorance.
True, in the olden days, the woman kept herself to the hearth and family, and did not interfere in any way with her husband’s activities. She cooked for him, kept house and looked after his children. He took over the duty of providing for them. He was the provider, she the nurturer, he brought home the bacon and she cooked it.
All this has changed completely. The woman has a multi-faceted personality with several roles. She is today her husband’s closest companion, his partner and his friend.
Most important of all, she is his support, advisor, teacher and caretaker. Apart from, of course, being his loving wife.