MATING OF MINDS

MATING OF MINDS

The secret of happy
Marriage lies in being
Able to respect each
Other’s views and
Ideas with a positive Attitude

Leave the discussion open: On many occasions, one tends to close the channels of communication by saying “the matter is closed. There is nothing more to discuss!” This definitely drives a wedge between the couple. No matter can ever be closed unless both the partners have had their say. Matters may remain unresolved for some time but they definitely need the vocal freedom of the spouses.

Don’t discuss sensitive matters
When a person is angry, he can rarely understand the viewpoint of his partner. It is during these angry fits that most people vent their feelings with venom least expect¬ed of them. It is best to give yourself some time to cool down before you begin discussing the matter.

Don’t rake up the past issues: It
is common folly to rake up issues which have already been resolved. The past irritants are best forgotten. Sometimes a spouse begins an argument with “You never understand me, you’ve always misunderstood me even in the past when…”
The moment such a statement is made, the past issue becomes the prime one and the present problems are out on the back burner. Give importance to the present problem instead of dwelling in the past