10 TIPS FOR BETTER SEX
10 TIPS FOR BETTER SEX
1. Talk and read about it.
It is assumed that you do not have any former experience. Once in bed the thing that may matter is to do it correctly, by the book. Of course not. But you might as well go to the bookshop and browse through the best literature possible and the must read, Kamasutra.
It’s your favourite subject with your girlfriends, isn’t it? Yet so many of us find it difficult to discuss it with our mates — with whom it matters most. Don’t be shy — talk about it. Exchange fantasies, describe what you like… and what you don’t. It’s the first step to better sex.
2. Break the monotomy.
All that may be there in a honeymoon is one room, a lot of time and flowing food and liquids. But after a while it may get boring. Does your sexual repertoire consist only of one position, in your bed, under the sheets, with the lights off?
Try something new and innovative. It doesn’t necessarily have to be anything too new — just little changes will do the trick. Simply changing your lovemaking venue or trying out a new position might fuel both your fires unbelievably!
3. Be playful.
Sex is a serious thing, but it’s also a fun thing — and the most wonderful thing about sex with someone you love is that you’re both relaxed enough to “let yourselves go” and have a blast! It’s OK to laugh, OK to be silly — indeed, it adds intimacy to your lovemaking. Don’t be in a hurry. Both of you are going to be together and active for times to come. It’s not the only night to strike the right cord.
4. Keep the words flowing
Feeling good about yourself is necessary for trust to develop between you. If he does something Great (both sexually and non-sexually), go ahead and praise him. And when he praises you, accept it gratefully and gracefully.
5. Spaces can work wonders, so can time.
Thank you, Khalil Gibran! There’s a tendency for couples to spend all their time together — especially once they are married. Yet have you ever noticed that when you’ve been apart for a while, the sex when you see each other again is fire working? Give it a try.
6. A tender arousal touch like the movies.
A simple touch can be the most seductive thing in the world. Don’t be afraid to reach out and hold his hand — it may seem corny once you’ve been married for a year, but touch is a wonderful way to keep in tune with each other’s vibes.
7. Flirtation is the key.
With each other, we mean. Remember how you were on that first date? Flirting fans the flames like nothing else.
8. Forget about orgasm.
That’s right — once in a while, forgets about your satisfaction, and concentrates solely on giving pleasure to your partner. Believe us, he’ll be so amazed he’ll return the favour right away!
9. Hero-worship him.
Mel Gibson and Antonio Bandera’s aside, try to make your man the star of your every fantasy. Develop a crush on him all over again. When your girlfriends are getting all excited over Tom Cruise’s backside, get excited about your man’s backside!
10. Remember to love.
Sexual techniques, positions, and fantasies are well and good, but the most important thing that can keep the fire burning between you and your husband is love.